5 Steps to Moving On After a Divorce, Breakup or Death

5 Steps to Moving On After a Divorce, Breakup or Death
Not everyone's Valentine's Day is about romance and roses. Some of us are still hung up on a break up or still grieving over the death of a loved one. Aurora Winter understands these troubles all too well. Her book, From Heartbreak to Happiness, is her diary of healing after her husband died suddenly at the age of 33, leaving her widowed with a 4-year-old son. As part of sneak peek of the book, Winter has given us 5 steps that can help make your Valentine's Day great.

'People don't know what to do to find love. It's not their fault. No one has given them a step-by-step action plan,' said Winter, an expert at guiding people From Heartbreak to Happiness(R). Keep reading for Aurora’s 5 steps to finding love after a divorce, death, or breakup.

1. Get clear
2. No mixed signals
3. Release the past
4. Improve yourself
5. Choose gratitude
Step 1: Get Clear
Get clear on your core values and goals for your new relationship. Describe your ideal partner's top 12 characteristics and put them in order of priority. For example: a good listener, successful, values family, loyal, kind, creative, attentive, healthy, handsome, self-confident, likes to travel, owns a home.
"People will consistently behave in a way that makes them feel important. What makes your ideal partner feel important?" said Aurora, author of From Heartbreak to Happiness. "Get clear."
Step 2: No Mixed Signals
Now that you're clear, stay clear. Don't give any mixed signals. Look at your list of the top 12 characteristics. The top 3 are your "must-haves." For example: a good listener, successful, values family.
Don't even have a coffee date with someone who doesn't have those top 3 traits. Use your dates to discover if they have the top 6 traits. If they do, that's a relationship worth exploring.
Step 3: Release the Past
Bitterness, resentment and anger are common after a divorce or breakup. People who have lost a spouse to death frequently yearn for their late husband or wife.
"Nothing repels new love faster than unresolved grief over the past," said Aurora Winter, who founded the Grief Coach Academy after the sudden death of her husband at the age of 33. "These 5 steps are like a combination lock that opens your heart. Don't skip any steps. If you have unresolved heartbreak from a divorce, death or breakup, get support to heal."
Step 4: Improve Yourself
Improving yourself is a powerful way to attract your ideal mate. Do you have the top 12 traits yourself? If not, work on self-improvement.
"When I described my ideal partner, I asked myself if I was a match for the amazing man I had just described," says Aurora. "I wasn't. So I got to work on myself. Now, years later, my life partner is everything I had on my list - and more."
Improve yourself so that you are a good match for your ideal partner.
Step 5: Choose Gratitude
Every day, write down 5 things that you're grateful for. Notice at least one thing you appreciate about yourself. It might be your kindness, your smile, or your parenting. Refuse to give any energy to negative or critical thoughts. "So often people self-sabotage because they subconsciously think they don't deserve their ideal partner. The antidote is gratitude," says Aurora.
Get clear, stay clear, release the past, improve yourself, and choose gratitude and you'll find love after a divorce, death or breakup.
"If I can go from heartbreak to happiness, you can, too," says Aurora.
Aurora's book From Heartbreak to Happiness is her intimate diary of healing after her husband died suddenly at the age of 33, leaving her widowed with a 4-year-old son.
From Heartbreak to Happiness is available as a complimentary ebook here.
About Aurora Winter
Formerly a film and TV executive producer, Aurora Winter has over a decade of experience with the media. Aurora is a grief expert and the founder of the Grief Coach Academy, which is dedicated to training coaches how to coach their clients through grief, and From Heartbreak to Happiness(R).

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