Sally in accounting always talks about why her boyfriend doesn’t love her. You hear Claire talking about why her and her roommate really shouldn’t have renewed their lease for another year. Oh, and in case you haven’t heard, Sean is bad mouthing your boss again. And on top of all of this, you hear that your two best friends haven’t been saying the nicest things about your friend Jill. It seems like everyone around you is at odds with one another, doesn’t it? Well, we’ve got the scoop on how you can get along with everyone (even people you may really despise). Don’t worry, we aren’t telling you to hold hands and sing koom ba ya to one another. We do ask, however, that you share this valuable information with those who may need a little of this koom ba ya spirit.
First things first, you have to understand that you no one is going to act the way you want them to. Sure, people may do some things in accordance with how you would like them to act. But, if Sally continues to talk about why her boyfriend doesn’t love her, you can’t expect her to just break up with him because you say so. Instead, just let her be the person she needs which is someone to listen to. And, if that starts to get a little old, tell her that you really wish the best for her and think that she should talk it out with her boyfriend, not you. Nothing catty about this one ladies!
Be open and honest.
Claire and her roommate don’t agree but don’t know how to be confrontational. Well, we can’t tell you to make them talk to one another because, at the end of the day, it really isn’t your place. What we can tell you, however, is that confrontation is the key to getting along with everyone and becoming an adult. Like we mentioned earlier, no one is going to act the way you want them to one hundred percent of the time. So, you have to make sure that your opinions are heard. Just made sure your opinions and ideas are said in a constructive manner.
Excuse yourself from the drama.
Lastly, to deal with situations where you hear people talking bad about someone else, or talking about you, simply walk away from those types of scenarios. It may be hard because, well, gossiping can be fun. But it’s also detrimental to those around you and yourself. Your showing people that not only can you not be trusted, you also like to spread news (whether its true or false). If something is said about you then you need to talk to those people directly involved instead of retaliating. Why? Well, remember when you were in kindergarden and someone took the paint away from you? Did you hit them in retaliation? And what did that solve? Exactly.
So, remember, the keys to to successfully getting along with everyone are; acknowledging that no one will act the way you want them to all the time, really listening to someone (and not pretending to), and confronting issues that may resolve between you and others. Now, go spread that koom ba ya spirit!