So you and your boyfriend have been dating for awhile. You are both committed to one another, and you think you’re ready for the next step. But let’s get something clear, moving into together isn’t a step; it’s more of a giant leap.
Moving in with your significant will do one of two things, either make or break the relationship. If you’ve been living alone prior to this “cohabitation,” you might want to give yourself a trial run. Maybe spend a week at his place, or have him stay with you for a weekend. This trial period will give you the opportunity to get used to the lack of privacy you will have when you live with your boyfriend.
So when should you do it?
If you are practically living together already then you might want to consider cohabitation. You will both save money on rent, but keep in mind, you will have to sacrifice your personal space and privacy.
Before you move in with your significant other, you must have an open conversation to set expectations with one another. Discuss topics such as grocery shopping, bills, and going out with friends. This conversation will help to limit the surprises and stupid arguments that are bound to happen. Make sure you both understand each others schedules, and try to plan nights away from each other. You will need to have your alone time, otherwise you will start to resent one another.
Whatever you decide to do, make sure you are honest with yourself and your significant other. If you aren’t ready to take your relationship to the next level, don’t push it. Watch this video to learn more about cohabitation and see what couples are saying about their experiences living together.